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Most of what Freud said was wrong, but then, he was the first significant modern thinker to discuss genuine psychology, so we have to give major credit to this brilliant person who worked almost entirely alone to understand the human psyche. I say that he was “wrong” with most of…
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Play
Play is a central ingredient in life. Asian philosophers speak of play being one of the cardinal elements of life together with work, friendship, spirituality. If we consider this philosophy, we need to consider how we can integrate play into our lives along with these other elements. But what is…
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Transitions
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It is important to honestly and forthrightly face transitions in life. We find that we are in an important transition. We have lived a good life and have enjoyed much of it, but now, it seems, that we are moving in a different direction, perhaps on a different path, perhaps…
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TRANSITIONS
Transitions It is important to honestly and forthrightly face transitions in life. We find that we are in an important transition. We have lived a good life and have enjoyed much of it, but now, it seems, that we are moving in a different direction, perhaps on a different path,…
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Good and Bad Narcissism
Narcissism. We’ve heard a lot about this term recently. It has become a favorite diagnostic term that people have used when they talk about some of their family members. Thus, it belongs in the commonly used terms as depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, ADHD, and autism. We believe that these terms…
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Love the Way You Love
Love the Way You Love On my way to work yesterday I found myself singing, “If you can’t be with the on you love, love the one you’re with.” I remember this from the 60’s with the free love theme that was part of that era. While there are so…
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Find it, Face it, Feel it, Finish it.
“Find it. Face it. Feel it. Finish it.” We say this phrase to clients frequently. We are talking about old sads. Old sads that haven’t been finished have a way of lurking around causing all kinds of difficulties in life. One of the worst things old unfinished sads do is…
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Finishing Past Losses
The bulk of the work we do with people is to help them recover from the losses that they have suffered in life. With very few exceptions, the only meaningful diagnosis we ever give anyone is Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) because all mental health disturbances, relationship disturbances, and other…
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Grief and Relief
I just met with a man who recently lost his wife. They had a long, successful, and enduring marriage but she contracted a debilitating disease that dominated their lives for nearly a decade as she deteriorated in physical condition. This meant that the man felt compelled, both by love and…
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You Don’t Want to Do It
How often do you feel compelled to do what you don’t want to do? If you’re like me, you often avoid these things, and then unfortunately, you feel burdened by thinking about what you should do quite a bit. In fact, you end up thinking about what you should do…
