Midlands Psychological Associates

  • September 16, 2013:   Why me?  Why NOT?! A most wonderful woman returned to my office this week after not seeing her for close to 13 years.  Long story short, she was dealing with “how good life is” and what is wrong with that?  Funny, I thought, here is a woman…

  • Most people who know me have already heard me say time and again that “truth is safe…it doesn’t have to be easy or likable, but it is always safe”.  Not only is truth safe, truth is vibrant and evolutional.  Truth is never stagnant.  The trick is to trust the pieces…

  • Deb and I have just come back from…meandering. We were in “the Southwest” of the country visiting various canyons and Native American cliff dwellings and the like. This, like most of our travels are begun with a general thought or direction followed by a commitment to…meander. We stop, stay, leave,…

  • August 12, 2013 – Regret: Wasted Energy She asked me “why do I not move forward?”  She was dealing with her efforts to recreate her profession and had just noted that when she thinks of opportunity missed she feels a pang of panic.  So much energy is wasted on those…

  • Recently I spent my whole day dealing with arguments. I have listened to six different people talk about the arguments they have had with the people in their lives. All of these people have been men. All of these arguments have been with spouses or significant others. All of these…

  • July 31, 1013 – Grandma’s dress Green! Now that’s a real summer green, I thought. Kind of turtle green. Hmmm, not the typical contemporary mix of hues, just a real solid, mid to dark green. It was a print but I didn’t take notice of the print, just the color…

  • I lost my wedding ring last Sunday. Actually, Deb lost it. We were at our cabin getting ready to leave, and both of us are doing our vairous duties, like sweeping, cleaning, and carrying things to the car. The car was jammed with a large bag of disposables, a large…

  • July 19, 2013 Here and Now, i.e.  mindfulness: I had a client (mother of a young child) ask me today if I had done “mindfulness stuff” with my kids.  I laughed and told her how we started a nude beach once and then suggested that it probably counted as mindfulness…

  • 30 years ago, when Deb and I were traveling in our funny lilttle 1982 Mercury LN7, Deb asked us if we wanted a cookie from the stash she had brought with us. I said, “Yes,” and Krissie, then age 9, certainly said, “Yes” and further suggested she might want more…

  • July 11, 2013 –  There is only one thing to say of today: I am surprised I am yet alive. There are numerous evenings, when Ron and I, sitting with our glass of wine, toast that it has been a good day to die, which of course, makes it a good…