emotional maturity

Feeling, Thinking, Doing

Jun 24, 2019

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Ron Johnson

in emotional maturity, feelings, mindfulness, Personality, relationships, self-awareness, social esteem

This is what psychology is about, and as a result, this is what life is about for people, particularly as they engage the world of things, ideas, and people. We tend to be good at one of these, fair at another, but almost always less than good at the third. Let me explain the paradigm…
Grace and Gratitude

May 20, 2019

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Ron Johnson

in appreciation, emotional maturity, feelings, positive psychology, self-awareness, social esteem, Spiritual

Deb and I have a special procedure the very first moment of our entering out cabin “up north” as we say in Wisconsin: whoever is first in the cabin walks over to the light above a sign that simply reads “gratitude.” Gratitude We are grateful to have the cabin, grateful to come and to…
The Essential Ingredients of a Good Relationship

May 18, 2019

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Ron Johnson

in appreciation, emotional maturity, feelings, marital, positive psychology, relationships, self-awareness

I suspect you have some ideas of what a good relationship looks like. Certainly, you would identify love as a central ingredient, and perhaps things like honesty, commitment, trustworthiness, or family connections. You might think a good relationship should be composed of good communication, lots of play, or lots of work. I agree that a…
Feelings XI: Paradoxical Feelings

May 5, 2019

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Ron Johnson

in Discovery, emotional maturity, feelings, mindfulness, self-awareness

We have been studying “feelings” for some time now, and this is our latest edition. Readers may peruse the previous 10 contributions to the topic. Deb and I are furiously working on a book incorporating all what we have written about and more, but the publication of that work will be sometimes in the future,…
Temperament VII: Lovers: Challenges and Opportunities

Apr 29, 2019

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Ron Johnson

in appreciation, Connection, emotional maturity, feelings, marital, mindfulness, Opportunity, Personality, relationships, self-awareness, social esteem

This is the seventh of a series of nine blogs on “temperament.” Previously, I have discussed the four temperaments that we have used to understand people for the past nearly 50 years. As we have defined these four temperaments, we identify players, lovers, analysts, and caretakers. Briefly stated, players seek experience, lovers seek connection, analysts…
Friendly “Street People”

Apr 28, 2019

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Ron Johnson

in appreciation, emotional maturity, feelings, morality, Spiritual

Deb and I just got back from a two-week journey of the country The Netherlands, otherwise known as Holland. We had the privilege of having some ideas of where and what we might see and do but not have anything in stone allowing ourselves the freedom of seeing what seem to be the right thing…
Difficult, Meaningless, Necessary

Mar 11, 2019

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Ron Johnson

in Discovery, emotional maturity, feelings, mindfulness, morality

There are some things in life that are enjoyable and some that are not. Ideally, we have a majority of things in our lives that are enjoyable and then a few that are not so enjoyable. I want to share some ideas and experience in the whole business of “doing what you don’t want to…
The Best of Times. The Worst of Times

Mar 1, 2019

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Ron Johnson

in appreciation, emotional maturity, feelings, mindfulness, morality, positive psychology

This is a quote from the first page of Charles Dickens’ Tale of Two Cities, and it represents a profound statement of a good portion of life, namely that there is always a combination of good and bad to every experience we have in life. Dickens was speaking, now 200 years ago, about the good…
Temperament VI, Players: Challenges and Opportunities

Feb 4, 2019

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Ron Johnson

in emotional maturity, Personality, positive psychology, self-awareness

This is the sixth in a series of blogs on “temperament,” which is the primary way we understand personality differences in people. Previous blogs have summarized the four temperaments as we seen them: player, analyst, lover, and caretakers. The primary ingredient of a player is his or her desire for experience. You might want to…
The Cure for Anxiety

Dec 7, 2018

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Ron Johnson

in emotional maturity, feelings, grief, mindfulness, self-awareness

Sadness. That is the cure for anxiety. But let me explain. Or you can read our book that devotes a whole chapter to the “cure for anxiety.” In this brief blog I will attempt to do several things: Explain what anxiety is along with its cousins: worry, fretting, fear, and outright terror Explain why anxiety…