feelings

Resolution of Trauma

Feb 3, 2023

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Ron Johnson

in emotional maturity, feelings, grief, love, Mental, mindfulness, self-awareness

Not long ago I wrote a blog entitled “the only mental health diagnosis” identifying it as trauma-related, and hence PTSD. This remains my opinion of the plethora of diagnoses that are so popular these days. As I previously noted, people simply want to make sense of ails them, whether their feelings, their behavior, their thinking,…
The Centrality of Disappointment

Oct 22, 2022

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Ron Johnson

in appreciation, Development, emotional maturity, feelings, grief, happiness, love, mindfulness, positive psychology, self-awareness, Spiritual

One of the most important terms to use daily is “disappointment.” Think about it: how many times during a single day are you actually disappointed. If you’re careful to note your feelings and thoughts, you will notice that disappointment is an experience that occurs several times a day. I want to discuss what disappointment is,…
The Things That We Love

Aug 1, 2022

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Ron Johnson

in appreciation, Connection, Development, family, feelings, love, mindfulness, Personality, self-awareness

We all love different things. Our most recent book, What’s Your Temperament, discusses how our temperaments determine what we like, and more importantly, what we love. We made a distinct point that one of the defining characteristics that we have is our temperament, and implicit in each temperament is a distinct tendency to love something.…
I Don’t Like My Kid

Jul 27, 2022

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Ron Johnson

in Children, emotional maturity, family, feelings, marital, relationships, self-awareness, social esteem

“I don’t like my kid.” This statement must sound outrageous. It certainly isn’t something that should be said frivolously or even teasingly. It most certainly shouldn’t be said to any child. It might, however, be a statement that could be said to a confidant who could be of some help understanding and dealing with not…
Overcoming Shame

Jun 13, 2022

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Ron Johnson

in emotional maturity, feelings, grief, love, marital, men’s issues, mindfulness, self-awareness, Spiritual

Almost everyone I see in my office suffers from shame. I wrote a blog a few years back differentiating shame and guilt, which remains an important element in understanding and conquering the phenomenon of shame in one’s life. In this blog, I will give some examples of shame that people feel in their lives, then…
Feeling Safe in the World

Apr 23, 2022

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Ron Johnson

in Development, emotional maturity, feelings, grief, happiness, love, mindfulness, positive psychology, self-awareness, Spiritual

The world has seemed a whole lot less safe recently. This increased amount of fear has led to a good deal of anxiety. Lack of safety has at least been caused by the Covid pandemic for more than two years but also by the cultural challenges that the Black Lives Matter movement have brought to…
Are All Men Selfish?

Mar 12, 2022

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Ron Johnson

in appreciation, Children, communication, Connection, Development, emotional maturity, feelings, happiness, men’s issues, positive psychology, relationships, self-awareness, social esteem

What an outrageous question, right? This is just as outrageous as my previous blog about “women never admit that they’re wrong.” This equally outrageous statement about men is not made in jest because men are frequently accused of being selfish, particularly by the women in their lives. I think there is something very important in…
Do Women Ever Admit That They’re Wrong?

Mar 7, 2022

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Ron Johnson

in communication, Connection, Development, emotional maturity, family, feelings, love, marital, men’s issues, mindfulness, relationships, self-awareness, social esteem

Do Women Ever Admit That They’re Wrong? What an outrageous question, it must seem. I would never have thought of asking such a question, which of course, is not a question, but rather a rhetorical question suggesting that women don’t ever admit that they’re wrong. This rhetorical question came to me from the even more outrageous…
Wanting it Both Ways

Nov 15, 2021

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Ron Johnson

in appreciation, Development, emotional maturity, feelings, grief, mindfulness, self-awareness

I have often “wanted it both ways” in many of life’s circumstances: I want to eat as much sugar as I want. I also want to have low glucose in my blood I want to lose weight. I also want to eat too much food at night I want to slim down my belly. I…
Love V: Love Problems

Nov 12, 2021

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Ron Johnson

in emotional maturity, feelings, grief, happiness, love, mindfulness, self-awareness, Spiritual

This is (probably) the last of the blogs on love. Previously, we looked at a bit of theory of love, “not being love right”, temperament-based love, and being “seen” so you could be loved. This blog will be devoted to a very basic concept that we have developed about feelings, emotions, and love. If you…