mindfulness

The I-You-We Approach to Relatiionships

Oct 3, 2019

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Ron Johnson

in emotional maturity, feelings, mindfulness, Opportunity, Personality, positive psychology, relationships, self-awareness

The I-You-We Approach to Relationships There are three main ingredients in any relationship, namely “I” (myself), “You” (the other person), and “We” (the combination of “I” and “You”). People tend to focus on one of these three elements, somewhat on a second item, and much less on the third item. This discussion is intended to…
Feeling, Thinking, Doing

Jun 24, 2019

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Ron Johnson

in emotional maturity, feelings, mindfulness, Personality, relationships, self-awareness, social esteem

This is what psychology is about, and as a result, this is what life is about for people, particularly as they engage the world of things, ideas, and people. We tend to be good at one of these, fair at another, but almost always less than good at the third. Let me explain the paradigm…
Feelings XI: Paradoxical Feelings

May 5, 2019

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Ron Johnson

in Discovery, emotional maturity, feelings, mindfulness, self-awareness

We have been studying “feelings” for some time now, and this is our latest edition. Readers may peruse the previous 10 contributions to the topic. Deb and I are furiously working on a book incorporating all what we have written about and more, but the publication of that work will be sometimes in the future,…
Temperament VII: Lovers: Challenges and Opportunities

Apr 29, 2019

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Ron Johnson

in appreciation, Connection, emotional maturity, feelings, marital, mindfulness, Opportunity, Personality, relationships, self-awareness, social esteem

This is the seventh of a series of nine blogs on “temperament.” Previously, I have discussed the four temperaments that we have used to understand people for the past nearly 50 years. As we have defined these four temperaments, we identify players, lovers, analysts, and caretakers. Briefly stated, players seek experience, lovers seek connection, analysts…
Left, Right, and Center

Apr 7, 2019

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Ron Johnson

in feelings, mindfulness, morality, political, self-awareness, Spiritual

I’ve had a bit of a difficult morning. I didn’t feel quite “right.” Know what I mean? This “not quite right” brought me right into what I’ve been writing about lately, namely the murky realm of “feelings”. In fact, Deb and I are furiously writing and re-writing our latest endeavor, namely a book tentatively entitled,…
Difficult, Meaningless, Necessary

Mar 11, 2019

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Ron Johnson

in Discovery, emotional maturity, feelings, mindfulness, morality

There are some things in life that are enjoyable and some that are not. Ideally, we have a majority of things in our lives that are enjoyable and then a few that are not so enjoyable. I want to share some ideas and experience in the whole business of “doing what you don’t want to…
Feelings X: Let Me Tell You About My Feelings

Mar 4, 2019

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Ron Johnson

in feelings, mindfulness, positive psychology, relationships, self-awareness, social esteem

Remember Far Side cartoons created by Gary Larsen? They were often with animals having some sense of human feelings, often a deeper sense than many humans actually have. Or, Larsen would have a group of people allegedly thinking or doing something that was an exaggeration of some human tendency. I miss Far Side. The cartoons…
The Best of Times. The Worst of Times

Mar 1, 2019

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Ron Johnson

in appreciation, emotional maturity, feelings, mindfulness, morality, positive psychology

This is a quote from the first page of Charles Dickens’ Tale of Two Cities, and it represents a profound statement of a good portion of life, namely that there is always a combination of good and bad to every experience we have in life. Dickens was speaking, now 200 years ago, about the good…
The Go-To’s of Life

Jan 25, 2019

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Ron Johnson

in feelings, mindfulness, Personality, positive psychology, self-awareness, Spiritual

We all have them. I call them “go-to” places. These are the places we go to when…well, when we want to for some reason. But let’s start with the idea that this “go-to” place is a good place, a safe place, a good thing for people, a place where people find solace, and maybe even…
Seeing Unicorns

Dec 14, 2018

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Ron Johnson

in appreciation, Discovery, feelings, mindfulness, Spiritual

There was once a small village in a mountainous region of the world. There lived in this village a wise man. He had seemingly always been both old and wise as no one could remember him being anything else. The people in village went about their normal responsibilities taking care of their property, persons, and…