positive psychology

Looking to the Man

Aug 26, 2024

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Ron Johnson

in communication, emotional maturity, marital, mindfulness, positive psychology, relationships, self-awareness, social esteem

Readers of my blogs hopefully understand that my prime interest in psychotherapy is with men. I just see men in my practice with just a couple of women whom I have known for years or decades who saw me a long time ago and consult with me on occasion. Importantly, I have had an interest…
The Centrality of Disappointment

Oct 22, 2022

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Ron Johnson

in appreciation, Development, emotional maturity, feelings, grief, happiness, love, mindfulness, positive psychology, self-awareness, Spiritual

One of the most important terms to use daily is “disappointment.” Think about it: how many times during a single day are you actually disappointed. If you’re careful to note your feelings and thoughts, you will notice that disappointment is an experience that occurs several times a day. I want to discuss what disappointment is,…
The Independent Personality and Relationships

Jun 20, 2022

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Ron Johnson

in communication, Connection, happiness, love, marital, men’s issues, Personality, positive psychology, relationships, self-awareness, social esteem

I see a lot of men in my office who are independent by nature, and I know a few more in my acquaintances and friendships. Independence is a truly remarkable personality trait that I admire and respect. Usually, independent men (and women, of course) cut their own lines in the earth, live by their own…
Feeling Safe in the World

Apr 23, 2022

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Ron Johnson

in Development, emotional maturity, feelings, grief, happiness, love, mindfulness, positive psychology, self-awareness, Spiritual

The world has seemed a whole lot less safe recently. This increased amount of fear has led to a good deal of anxiety. Lack of safety has at least been caused by the Covid pandemic for more than two years but also by the cultural challenges that the Black Lives Matter movement have brought to…
Are All Men Selfish?

Mar 12, 2022

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Ron Johnson

in appreciation, Children, communication, Connection, Development, emotional maturity, feelings, happiness, men’s issues, positive psychology, relationships, self-awareness, social esteem

What an outrageous question, right? This is just as outrageous as my previous blog about “women never admit that they’re wrong.” This equally outrageous statement about men is not made in jest because men are frequently accused of being selfish, particularly by the women in their lives. I think there is something very important in…
Love III: Not Loved Right

Nov 7, 2021

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Ron Johnson

in Development, emotional maturity, feelings, love, mindfulness, Personality, positive psychology, relationships, self-awareness

This is the third of several blogs on love. Previously, I introduced this series noting that love is so important that it is undefinable, like other undefinable basic elements of life such as “feelings” which is so central to human existence and relationships, as well as time, distance, and mass, which are also undefined but…
Good for Me; Bad for Me VI: Complexities

Aug 3, 2020

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Ron Johnson

in emotional maturity, feelings, mindfulness, morality, positive psychology, self-awareness

This is the sixth in a series of “good for me; bad for me,” namely things that are, quite simply good for me or bad for me. The pronoun “me” could be “you”, but the point is the many things are those that enhance one’s life while other things depreciate one’s life. Importantly, I have…
Good for Me; Bad for Me: Part 1 (corrected)

Jun 1, 2020

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Ron Johnson

in Discovery, emotional maturity, feelings, grief, happiness, mindfulness, positive psychology, self-awareness

This is the first of three blogs regarding the phenomenon of “good for me” and “bad for me” that I have used for many years as I have attempted to help people know when something is, quite simply good for them or bad for them. In this blog I will propose the basic concept of…
You Value What You See

May 19, 2020

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Ron Johnson

in emotional maturity, Personality, positive psychology, relationships, self-awareness

I don’t see much. Well, that’s not entirely true, but there’s lots of truth in it. An important part of this “not seeing much” is related to the fact that I am colorblind. Not seriously so, like people who actually don’t see colors at all and live in a kind of black-and-white world, as I…
Feelings, Emotions, and Temperaments

Jan 27, 2020

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Ron Johnson

in emotional maturity, feelings, Personality, positive psychology, relationships, self-awareness

I remind our readers that we have written several blogs on “feelings,” noting that feelings erupt in four consecutive stages: first physical, secondly emotional, thirdly cognitive, and finally in some kind of action (which could be something said or done). Significant in the understanding of feelings is that feelings are undefined. Thus “feelings” belongs with…